Confused beyond belief

[labug]

I really can't imagine how hard this is for you. I'm sorry that you and especially your boys are going through this.

Just wanted to support you in that you can't control the R of your sons and H. You can support it but you can't control it because you don't know what that is meant to be. You know what you would like it to be but that may not be what your h wants or is capable of. Let him work it out. As you said, you've done most of the emotional work in your M (I have that same line written somewhere in my threads)now it is time to turn the responsibility for his life over to him.

And have no expectations about what the father-son R will be.

Keep the focus on you.