Listen, give serious weight to going to H's apartment alternate weekends. Have some downtime, relax, find a new GAL, see a movie alone, go to a wine tasting, art show, play, theatre, opera etc. something so totally different. Attend a cycling or running seminar. It will be hard to leave babies at first, but guess what? Kids have two parents.
Right now you are stuck and kids are old enough to be accepting when you say, this is how it will go. Start with one night and maybe work up to two.
Will be setting schedule myself with H come April. I would also like some down time :))
