On another thread, busting out posted "she is irrelevant to my sitch with my R. I have heard that 100 times before of course here on the boards, but it sank in for some reason. I don't care about her. She is meaningless to me and to whatever R I create with my H. I can see how she is an obstacle to him coming back to the family, but she is not an obstacle to me anymore. I am the better choice, I know that now, and if H chooses to see that, great. And if not, his loss."

I just had to copy that here so that I can keep it in mind. I know it's true, but sometimes I still get annoyed that H will do stuff for OW that he'd never do for me. I am better than her and don't need to waste any more time thinking about her.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13