Two, are you keeping yourself in limbo? Are you waiting for her to let you out of it? Why don't you decide what your relationship is with W.
That is something I am working on, AD. For too long, W has been dictating the terms of our relationship, tossing out crumbs every so often and basically stringing me along. I'll be the first to admit that I've been a willing participant in the hopes that she would eventually come around.
Originally Posted By: adinva
If you hang out in March and buy baseball and movie tickets together because that's what you do with the mom of your kids, then good. If you find that friendship false and would rather make it clear that you're doing your own thing, what would happen if you get to define that for you and for her? Instead of waiting to see how she's defining things?
I think I was pretty clear that I would no longer wait for her to define our relationship. And frankly, while a friendly co-parent (hate the word by the way!) relationship may be how we end up, right now I am really quite tired of her getting to have her cake and eat it too.
Originally Posted By: adinva
You've been in limbo for so long, and you're tired of it, and it's like you're asking her to release you from it. You got the powah.
I'm not following you regarding me "asking her to release me from limbo." I pretty much told her that I was done being in limbo and needed to move on. So I'm not really seeing where you are coming from in this regard.
I'm interested in hearing more perspective on this.
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