EXPERIMENTING with physical touch with W

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IS IT POSSIBLE A WAW CAN BE TRYING TO TELL THE LBS WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO TO BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE TO HER?

I wonder nowadays if my W is trying to tell me what to do to become more attractive to her. We already established she doesn't seem to be done with me, and that she is undecided between OM and myself. I am really her best friend (I know, best friends don't do this to each other), her loyal and faithful companion since she was 17, the father of her only child, the person who has made her life as comfortable as is possible. OM makes her feel incredible, although I suspect it is the "Love chemicals" that are making her feel incredible, not OM himself. With two children from a failed relationship, and then another failed relationship where his girlfriend left him for another woman, I hardly think he is good at making people feel special.

Anyway, lets focus on this bizarre feeling i have. DR and members of the DB forum offer specific advise to the LBS on what they need to do with themselves in order to MAYBE become attractive to your WAW. They are as follows:

1) Address the issues or concerns your WAW had with your M
2) Become the best father in the world (if you are not already. if you are, then try even harder).
3) GAL, make new friends, take up new hobbies.

These are out of the divorce busting "playbook" if there ever was such a thing. Now, has anyone heard of or felt that their WAW is looking at the same playbook and guiding you through these things????

Here is what my wife has done:

1) Addressing the issues: She has asked me twice if the vitamins my Dr told me I need to take in order to up my sex drive are "going well". Why would she be concerned if we are divorcing? Does she want me to be a stallion for my future spouse?

2) Become an awesome father: I think if asked my wife would say I am a very VERY supportive spouse when it comes to our daughter. I changed diapers and fed the baby from day one. I did most of the night shift so wife could sleep, even though I still had to get up early and work a 8 to 10 hour day. I have NEVER missed a prenatal appointment with W, never missed a sonogram session, and now have never missed a pediatricians appointment for our daughter. I leave my business and meet my W at the dr office to be there for her, or for D3 when they are going to the dr even for a routine checkup. Seriously I have not missed one single appointment! I don't care what is going on in my life or my business, I WILL be there for them no matter what.

But, the day of BD she kept telling me "Hang out with D3, and take your mind off things". I thought she just wanted to me enjoy myself and not think about what she just told me.

However, she is still saying things like "You know what would be really cool? if you took D3 to the zoo to show her the animals".. Then when I am there, she messages me to tell me "Send me pics of you guys!". Isn't that what we tell each other here on the forum? Do fun things with the kids and send your WAW pics of you enjoying yourself so she knows what she is missing? Why is she telling me what she thinks would be a great time, and then asking me to show her how much fun we are having without her?

She also sends me many MANY pics of D3 throughout the day, every day. Lately, they have also included self shots of her and D3 smiling or hamming it up for the camera. W is always smiling in the pics as if to say look how cute we are. She also makes sure the camera is angled such that there is a lot of cleavage in the pic. And she puts titles to the pics like "Your girls". WTF??

3) GAL, make new friends, start a hobby: At the begginning when i mentioned I might go out with the guys from work, she would so "Oh really? Where to?". Now it seems it is guided...like "hey you guys should go to ______ this weekend". Or "It would be very cool to take your employees out for dinner tomorrow".

On the friends thing, she says "You should call so and so and see what he is up to". The other day I wanted to mention the cooking class I want to take to see what she would say. I said "You know what i want to do? I want to take a cooking class! I found one that is once a week for 3 weeks, and it is $150". She said "That is an awesome idea! You love to cook and you can meet new people and make new friends! Livingsocial has deals for cooking classes, I'll look it up and find a good deal for you".

I keep saying she is acting like nothing is going on. But lately it has felt like there is more to it, almost like she has a copy of DR and she is guiding me through the things that I lost touch with in our M, the things that would make me more attractive. She said "I would need to fall in love with you again" back on BD and its almost like these are the things that will help that. Even when I mentioned that i wanted to buy some dumbells because I don't have time to go to the gym but I can curl some weights while watching TV in the evening, she said "Very cool. Then you can get those sexy arms back".

What gives?