Filing for bankruptcy is not on my agenda at the moment. it would not be a good idea.
And yes, this is my dilemma: the sitch is extremely complicated and will take a lot of professional help to untangle, but that will be very costly.
All I can do is to work through it paying for what I can - at the moment I have an estate lawyer and an accountant on the case and am taking my D lawyer's advice to let H knock himself out/wake up to what's going to be involved through mediation.
Sorry to have misquoted you. This is an important distinction: "I don't think I said lose the anger but rather work through it"
It helped me to hear you say this again. I will have anger; I don't think I can NOT. But I can work through it better than letting it take me over.
And ultimately, H and OW are the winners if I let them manipulate me like this.
This perspective really works for me, so thank you.
I'm hoping it sticks this time. I will not be dragged into their provocations any more. I should be smarter than this.
