Longrun, when your W says you don't "touch her soul" I think she means that she doesn't feel emotionally connected to you.
That's right and that's the huge challenge for me. When our friendship started in the 1980ies it wasn't the "big bang". I knew she was into me, I also liked her - we kind of morphed into the romantic stage without a major infatuation on either side. My love grew over the years whereas she now says she never really loved me, at least never as much as she loves OM now. So I am facing a tremendous uphill battle, possibly really winning her heart for the first time.
Originally Posted By: tori2012
Work on building respect and admiration from her. Based on your post, it seems she lost some of that, too.
Yes, she says the years when I didn't manage to finish my education her feelings for me died a slow death. Funny thing is OM never finished any education - and all of a sudden it doesn't matter any more. And I was the "houseman loser" - OM is spending even more time in their joint flat than I did. Well, the WAS way has nothing to do with logic.
