Now, I will be the first to admit that I am not ready to jump back into our old M. I am sure things would quickly go sideways. We have many issues, on both sides, that we need to work out. I am willing to work slowly in it, stay separated, whatever, with the understanding that it may not work. This is pretty much the situation you are in tallula. You're both on board .I would LOVE to be in your sitch right now, or to just have my wife show ONE sign that she isn't 100% done. That is all I would need. Unfortunately, I am working on myself alone, all alone. I know, DBing is for "ME", and I am working hard towards being a better person. I really am. It just doesn't make it any easier when you know your S isn't putting in any work and shows no signs of returning.
It is just discouraging....today is discouraging. tomorrow WILL BE BETTER...I have to remind myself of that.
Well, the only reason I really know my H isn't 100% done, is he hasn't filed for D. One minute he is done, the next he isn't. One minute he is affectionate, the next he isn't. Michelle doesn't say to believe less than half of what you hear...blah. You know it. That's the way to look at it. She hasn't filed, so there is a chance. Mine is a serial cheater, so...yeah. Let's not even go there. My sitch is jacked up. Like Sandi said, she showed NO SIGNS of wanting the R to work. ALl we can do, it stop making the sitch worse and focus on the only thing we can change, us. I hope my H wants to change and be a faithful H. But, I can't pretend that I don't have things to work on in the meantime. I'll need to work on those if I EVER want a healthier, happier me.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
