?? I think I missed something here. I didn't know there was OM involved. And that you get along with him? I'm confused.
Yes, they used to work together. We both knew him and his wife and had them over to our house at least once, maybe more than that, I don't recall as it's been years ago. He went through a divorce and she was there to support him, going over to spend time with him and such. She invited him to our house for Thanksgiving and Christmas so he wouldn't be alone. Then when this started with us he was "there for her". Early on when I was doing all the other wrong stuff I also snooped and found some flirty messages between them, her talking about what she wanted to wear to bed and such. And she wasn't describing the ancient, ratty knee-length t-shirt she always wore in OUR bed, LOL! He didn't respond in kind, so I don't know if it stayed an EA or if it ever moved to a PA, and I quit snooping after reading DR.
She never, ever tells me when he's around, but the kids do. He's gone with W and the kids to look for a puppy, go horse-back riding, play minature golf, etc. etc. He's ever-present. We still talk now and then. As an example, he and W took the kids somewhere and W had to go elsewhere afterwards, so he was going to drive them back to my house. I offered to meet them somewhere so he wouldn't have to drive all the way back, so we met at a restaurant and had pizza. I paid. I harbor no ill will towards him, he is not the reason our M fell apart. That's why I rarely mention him, he's not the problem. He's a really nice guy, my attitude is if my kids are going to be around an OM I'd rather it be him than someone else.
