almost 3 months....seems like eternity

[Tallula]

Here's the thing.......you are looking for changes in your W.


Let me tell you, if she came back to the M today, you would settle right back into old routines & bad habits. Why? Beside the fact you haven't changed enough? Because it hasn't been long enough. There have been other LBH's who were at this longer than you.....who swore they would never get in that shape again, if only they got another chance to show the W what a wonderful H they could be. Sad to say, but this board has seen several of those men return. Maybe women have too, but I can't remember any at the moment.

So my friend, if things are resolved too quickly, I'm afraid you would not appreciate the time and hard work that it takes to really change yourself into being the best you can be. Look how long you've been.....how shall I say.....not the best?

Remember, it's not about whether or not you have "reason", but how you choose to act.

^^^^^THIS^^^^^^

I soooo badly want my M to work. So when H said he ended it with OW 3 weeks ago...I was terrified! Terrified we would end up in the exact same place. I SO needed to read this. We just started our S. For us, I believe the only way to move forward is to S. For both of us. But slowing down is so important, because I don't want to end up back here...with anyone!!! Oh, I hope everyone reads this. I will take a pic on my phone and read each time I get impatient and want to either END IT or HURRY UP AND GET BACK TOGETHER. Sandi you are great