"Filling their love bank" and "speaking their love language," while there is OM/OW contact, is "pursuing." When you're piecing, it's REQUIRED, and you gotta have the patience of Job with it. That's just one example -- there are many, many more.
I've read many of your past posts, your opinion is greatly valued, thanks for getting back to me.
"That's just one example -- there are many, many more" If you ever get the time I'd really like to know what these are. There are days when I wish I had a Piecing blueprint to work from
Any of the things suggested in The Love Dare (from the movie "Fireproof") would be more examples.
DBing requires you to use the "push/pull" dynamic, whereby if you pursue them, they will feel smothered and FLEE from you. It's also big-time enabling if you do it while they're rubbing your face in an affair, too.
However, once any infidelity has ended, no-contact is established and both spouses agree to work on reconciliation ("piecing"), many of these things are needed in order to build love back into the marriage. Betrayed (and left-behind) spouses always want to do these things while their spouse is RUNNING from them, and I have to encourage them by saying "There will be plenty of time for this . . . LATER."
