You will want some more input from the vastly more knowledgable people on here....BUT, your H sounds like he honestly thinks you haven't owned up to your faults in the M. I am sure you probably have, but that might not be his reality of the situation, maybye call it selective hearing.
Would you consider laying it out there, again? Maybe he just needs some re-affirmation that you admit to playing a role in the demise of the relationship. I don't personally see any damage it could cause, and it might be a step forward. Of course, you would have to do this calmly and sincerely. It also sounds like you will have to be very obvious in your words, leaving nothing up to his interpretations. There can be no blame placed, just "this is what I have done...I am sorry".
The reason I ask you this, is I have noticed you mention several times that he doesn't think that you have owned your responsibility. Just a thought, but maybe he really doesn't?
