Hey Floyd- I have not read any of your past posts and don't know how you got here but I stumbled on your recent post today as 2 of my good friends have posted to you above.
I am in the midst of a similar legal battle. Mud slinging, lies, embellishments, accusations, etc.. It has been extremely difficult to work through and to stay on the high road.
Your stbx's truth is not your truth or your children's truth.
We really do need to emotionally deatch at this time more than ever and do our best to make the best possible decisions for ourselves and our kids.
Have faith in yourself and give yourself some room to breathe, things may get worse before they get better.
