Have you ever thought about rotating YOU and H at the apartment. You sleep at the apartment on the nights he has them. Many folks are doing this now. This way the kids stay in their home but you both have ample time and space with the kids. You both would have to be on board with it. Your H has the best of both worlds right now. Just saying.
On his weekend you sleep at the apartment. On your weekend he sleeps at the apartment. Same for during the week
I see your points though. If you are happy with the arrangement then great!
We almost did this, and still plan to if our kids respond poorly to them staying at H's apartment. H felt like I would end up getting resentful having to clean 2 places...lol. At least he has seen enough about himself to realize that he doesn't take care of much. But, my kids are so young that they can stay in his bedroom and a pack n play.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
