Thanks again for the supportive comments Unfortunately things did not go well last night. W came over for the dialoging and that segued into a discussion of how the dialog and followup classes don't seem to be helping us progress in our marriage. W admitted that she still had no feelings for me and doesn't think she ever will. We both agreed that RetroV has really helped us with our communications, but that has not converted into any kind of marital breakthrough. There was more discussed, but it was mostly just covering the same territory I've mentioned up above. Where we left it was that we would discontinue the dialoging and followup sessions for now, but get back together later to discuss things.
I told W that I had discontinued dating while waiting to see how this was going to develop, but that since it sounded like she was still in the same place regarding having no interest in me that I was ready to start again, and with one woman in particular. She asked a few questions about her (does she like kids, does she make me happy, etc.) and told me she was glad for me, that she wanted me to be happy.
I asked her how all this makes her feel and she said "scared". I asked her if she meant for me or herself, and she said herself. I asked what she meant by that and she said she wasn't sure. It was getting late and we were both tired, so we agreed to get together this weekend to discuss things further.
Unfortunately things did not go well last night. W came over for the dialoging and that segued into a discussion of how the dialog and followup classes don't seem to be helping us progress in our marriage. W admitted that she still had no feelings for me and doesn't think she ever will. We both agreed that RetroV has really helped us with our communications, but that has not converted into any kind of marital breakthrough. There was more discussed, but it was mostly just covering the same territory I've mentioned up above. Where we left it was that we would discontinue the dialoging and followup sessions for now, but get back together later to discuss things.