as for what to tell well meaning friends They'll recall the worst things you tell them and you WILL have to hear their feedback. It makes it harder to keep the road home, paved & smooth.
You're smart to do your best 180s while you still are around him. Give him good memories to live with when he's gone,
do not fuel his reasons for leaving. You want to undermine his reasons for going, not confirm them. Make sense? That might mean being Mother Teresa for a few weeks, but it's good training and it's worth it.
Good luck.
Woo Hoo! I finally got an advice from 25yearsmlc! Not that I meant to resist bashing my H to my friends, but I really didn't have bad things to say about him to them since this thing started, so I'm good there. I just repeatedly told them I know what he went through in this M and while I was certainly not the only one to blame for our problems, I had a lot to do with it because I was a stone-headed. They don't say bad things about him either but they just see me hurt and still see me try to restore M, they are frustrated for sure. They just always go back to "I just want to shake him! He should know how much you are trying"
But I think he's trying. I really do. It's very slow but he is. I have always been like the bunny in the bunny and turtle race. I should be the turtle for once.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
