Found a list of things to stop on Husband's phone. Number three was "wife".
Bizarre! What were 1 and 2?
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This transpired over five months ago. Since then I found out he had a girlfriend (not before he left) and so I have been DBing my butt off, since then.
DB'ing is all about taking stock of your faults in the M and doing 180's on those things. Can you touch on what those problems were and your 180's?
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I just feel he needs this time to get his own sh*t together and to begin any sort of physical relationship (even though lack of intimacy was main reason he left) is not the right way to begin to reconnect.
Be careful about blaming H. You need to own your problems while giving him time and space to think things through.
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Given we were married for over 15 years, I think that separating the two would be an impossibility, especially for me.
That's your choice, Michele says in DR that continuing to have sex after an S is OK as long as the LBS isn't being hurt by it. But if you feel it would hurt you, then don't do it.
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He does not want divorce, says he has no desire to marry ever again, and separation is fine.
Well that's good, it means you have plenty of time. Use it wisely!
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I really do not think he could be back here and happy.
I actually am willing to entertain relationship without having a common household, rather two of them. Is this weird?
You mentioned the house in the city, so haven't you already been doing the two household thing? How has that worked out?
