My question is now that it's out there if he does bring it up again what do I say, I've changed my mind? I'm at a different place now I don't feel the need for you to leave but I'll do what you think is best? What do you suggest?
Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough" will tell you that the WAS feels caged in and so you need to open the cage door to them. This is basically what I told my W: "I want you to stay here and work on the marriage, but most of all I want you to be happy and if you feel that leaving will make you happy then I support your decision and will help you in whatever way I can." Notice that I didn't tell her to leave, and I didn't agree with her decision to leave. I just told her that I supported HER in whatever decision she was making. So she still had to make the decision, it was her choice.
Originally Posted By: momof2cuties
Another issue is H's birthday is Saturday. I know better than to give him a gift, I will have the kids make him cards from them. And I was thinking of getting a cake more so because the kids will expect it. Other than that do I just go on as if it's a normal day?
Not everyone agrees with this but personally I feel that if you're still under the same roof then you should follow through on tradition. As you said it's as much for the kids as your H. W's bday was after BD but before she moved and I did give her a small party. It didn't help our sitch one bit, but the kids enjoyed it and I think she did too. I have no regrets.
