There is nothing you can DO that is going to speed up MLC, but you can slow it down.
Keep your boundaries, lead by ACTIONS not words.
And use the TIME that has been given to you as a GIFT.
MLC takes forever and you have still been at this a very short time.
I know, but the calendar is rolling… it’s not like I’m going to be Young Forever!
Originally Posted By: RH
Your thread title seems so fitting! You are just waiting, waiting. But it seems good she wants to be at home and not go anywhere, IMO.
You are a huge security for her and she may not feel in love with you right now, but she obviously wants you in her life.
Snodderly is always telling me to dig deeper for patience. It sounds like you are doing very well with DB. I actually think it's positive she would sing aloud at home where you can hear her. I only do that when I'm very comfortable.
Thank you so much for the inspirational words, reaching! I surely can use them. Just hearing that someone thinks I'm doing well really helps.
Funny thing is she used to sing before her Mom died, but they were all simple one line songs she made up. Some happy and a few not. She had little to no interest in actual music. One of our running jokes for this came from a line in a Simpson’s episode, where Marge says “Music is none of my business.”
She never really stopped singing, but it just seems like she’s in her own world when she does it. So, because of her behavior towards me, I of course figure she’s happily moving on without me in her mind.
MLC had her dive into modern Pop music big time. Then reach back to classic country tunes, (Johnny Cash is a favorite) Classical and even Opera. She downloads some from iTunes, but mostly prefers checking CD’s out of the local library, because it’s free. We’ve never had money issues and our savings just keep piling up.
Originally Posted By: RH
Idk, FY, I say keep hanging in there. I think you are doing great!
Thanks! Nobody can say I’m not trying, that's for sure.
FY,
Originally Posted By: snodderly
Patience! Dig deeper for more patience.
Is there a special shovel for this? I’ll take two please!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
