He got caught and he is mad. He knows you are mad. He is scared for what is going to happen. My H did/does the same thing. They don't really know what they want. The OW in our sitch was a mess too. Living with her drunk ex husband, no job, 3 kids. They met in alanon. Nice, huh. He even said at one point that he was her knight in shining armor. I responded that what a shame that a married man lying to his wife and destroying his family was someone's idea of a savior. I'm not the needy type. I'm a strong woman. Today I know that if he needs some needy woman to make him feel like a man, I'm not it. We divorce, I'll have to get a fulltime job to support my kids...and I will. Good luck taking care of 6 kids, buddy. Ha. So far he has ended it with her, but I don't hold my breath that now that we are separated, that they will start up again.
Just know that his choice in OW has nothing to do with you. I'm way better looking than my H's OW. Clearly, I'm also more confident, trustworthy, and generally have a much higher awesome level...hehehe, so do you!! This has everything to do with them and their shortcomings. Just keep focusing on your kids, your 180s and POM. I really am working on me, simply for me. I want to be happy! You are doing great!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
