MissAgnes, Your h's behavior at the bday party was very common of mlcers. They will wear masks around everyone and be attentive to others, but we are left standing there alone and yes, not even offer to get you a drink. We become the elephant in the room w/them.
As for your fil's comment, take it w/a grain of salt and toss it over your shoulder. He has no business comparing you to his "black sheep" daughter and you can't sweep what your h has done and continues to do under the rug. That's part of the problem w/your h now...no accountability or recognition during his childhood.
You may never know what your h has shared w/them, but remember, blood is thicker than water and they will believe whatever comes out of his mouth for a long time, but if they are smart people, they will figure it out in the months ahead. Continue to be yourself and don't allow them to get under your skin. You have nothing to hide or prove to them.
Call the old girlfriend and advise her to contact him via his cell. I wouldn't want to meet up on Valentine's Day, but that's me.
Yes, all of this is very stupid, but you aren't dealing w/an adult, but a young boy who needs to grow up.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
