Now I'm trying to GAL, 180, and hope she changes her mind.
And she might, but don't expect it to be sudden. Prepare for a long haul ahead.
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I had been depressed and emotionally and physically absent for much of our marriage. We had a lot of external issues: money/jobs, sick/dying relatives, etc. No kids. She just had a major milestone birthday, so I think some of this may be MLC stuff.
If you were depressed and emotionally and physically absent then it's probably not MLC. She's probably been planning on leaving for quite a while.
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The funny thing is that I was planning on turning over a new leaf on the first, but I guess maybe it's too late?
I'm not sure what you were waiting for, but it's never too late to turn over a new leaf. What have you done about the depression? That's not something you can normally resolve on your own. Get help, and do it for you.
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How can the DB tactics work when you're already living in different locations and don't have kids to force the occasional contact?
Well, having minimal contact can actually be a benefit. The idea is to give your W time and space. Don't contact her at all. If she contacts you then it's OK to respond, but don't initiate contact.
