First off, the game isn't over until you believe it is. There are many stories of people that get D'd and remarry years later (actually just met a couple at church this weekend that did this). Even if you sign you will still continue to work on yourself and become person you want, and need, to be. You will still see W since you have a S so hopefully you'll stay friends and she'll see changes in you. You never know what the future holds but YOU will be a better person no matter how it turns out if you continue to work on you.
With that said I have absolutely no plans to sign anything for a while. When W and I discussed D early on I told her clearly I was against D and I planned to take as long as possible with the process in hopes she would change her mind. I also told her I wouldn't help with any of the D stuff (house for sale, etc...). I've also told my L this and it frustrates him because I'm late on everything I owe him (my interrogatories were due last week and I have no intention of sending them until he knocks on my door). For me, until I sign the paper I will keep my vows and I will keep hope alive. Truth be told, deep down I'm afraid that once I sign I'll lose hope and start down a new path. I'm not signing until I'm ready for that path. It may, or may not, make a bit of difference with how W acts but I can't control her and I know what the piece of paper means to me. Just my take on that.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
