My wife continues to run between lukewarm and cold. She came home from her super bowl night out all happy, told me all about it. The next day distant and cold, shields set on maximum. At one point when I came near, she glanced up from her iPad and gave me the iciest stare I've seen in quite a while.
Today a coworker showed me the banned Skittles commercial. It's naughty. It reminded me of what W and I don't have, and got me down. I deserve to have a physical connection with my wife. It's been almost a year, and I'm not just talking about sex. I don't intend to silently wait for years.
Maybe the deep freeze is part of her plan to get me to give up. Yet she's not going anywhere. My DB efforts have left her quite comfortable around here.
As I seem to do every few weeks, I'm again planning the best way to begin letting my wife know I'm not waiting around forever. I'm sure no matter what I say it won't make her bolt. Your advice?
Maybe I'll try light contact here and there and see what happens.
Otherwise I'm doing fine for myself. I'm in great shape, have plenty of interests, and generally stay busy. I know plenty of folks here have it much worse than I do. My wife may be cool and indifferent, but she doesn't spew, and doesn't have an OM. I'm sure some would say I shouldn't be complaining, but I am...
Because standing doesn't seem worth it at times. I'd be 100% fine on my own, I'm sure... I really don't need a wife who is just a roommate. Yet I can't help but think that she may come around and thank me some day. Or not, who knows.
As I type this I can hear her singing while putting away the dishes, "You want me to change, change, change, you want me to change." lol
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
