1. You said, "I'd love H to brainstorm with me about what to do." YES! Now you know what you want. So go ahead and tell him that you'd like to brainstorm. Brainstorming sounds like cooperation, which is a great thing to have in your R. 2. Your H and you have different strengths. So maybe you can divvy up the responsibilities based on this. If he's not good at booking tickets, maybe you should be in charge of this. Or let him fail and this way he might be able to see a need for change. Your choice. Anyone can change at any point in their life, but they have to WANT to change. 3. Keep thinking of that tow company guy. See the positive attributes in your H. And not only in your H, but in everyone around you.
