W continues to live with OM - what to do?

[longrun]

littleGTO, thanks a lot for visiting my thread.

Give yourself more time. Time for when you are back in your house. Then maybe you'll be around your W more for her to see your consistent changes.

Thanks for this view. My wife can be very stubborn. Now that she has made her move I expect that she will try to cling to OM as long as possible to justify her decision.

Her A w OM is still rather new--even though you say it's been a year, they have only been living together for 5 months. Give it more time for the "infatuation" stage to wear off.

Thanks also for this perspective. If five months which feel like an eternity is "new" then I really have to be prepared for a long run. Actually I once talked to a lady during a train ride. I outlined my situation and she then told me that she married her husband in 1968. Her marriage was on the brink of breaking apart for years. Her husband had a PA for four years, she for three years - yet they didn't divorce, reconciled and are now glad that they have stayed together. She told me to wait for 3-4 years.

One thing--try not to put your kids in the middle of your R. Don't ask them to choose.

That's an area where I must improve. My self control isn't good enough yet when I am together with the kids and sometimes I have been venting my frustration about the situation.