Into The Sunset

[whitneypinch]

Hi Tad,

I see a lot of posting suggesting that we were partially to blame when our spouses walked out on us.
In hindsight we all could have done better. We did some less than ideal things but we DID not walk out on a marriage.

There are many people that feel that a spouse is partially to blame when the other spouse has an affair. I DON"T !!
When a spouse has an affair it is solely their decision to do that. No one MADE them or justified it for them.

Please don't beat yourself up with all the things you could have done better.
You did that best you could, given what you knew, AT THE TIME.
We learn from it and quit frankly become a better person for it.

Your wife left... you did NOT make her leave.

Yes, I know I will have a bunch of people disagree with me... so be it.

I have been following all your posts.
You are a good guy and don't you forget it !!

I too have a few bad days... as we all do. But they are getting less and less...