H flew back yesterday (he's refusing to call his place back east 'home' now). Shipping things back to our house, preparing for a second interview next week out here. We'd already bought the plane tix to have him back next week, so the second interview worked out perfectly.
Ok, so I'm going to share something silly that I either read on here or some other online community. I thought it was absolutely ridiculous when I read it, but had shared it with H when he was home and ended up using it and it was highly effective. I had read somewhere about removing your clothes when you are arguing or tension is rising in a conversation about R (or just in general during reconciliation). Well, H actually did this while we were discussing something that was getting heated. Honestly, it was the best thing he could have done. I can't remember laughing that hard in a long time, it broke the tension and helped me realize I was slipping into old communication patterns.
Roles reversed when I used that tactic on him later that week. He looked up at me and just smiled and said, "I was being an a$$, wasn't I? Thanks for reminding me and getting us back on track".
Now, I will mention...we were home! Not out at Disneyland or something like that! But, it just goes to show you that thinking outside the box sometimes is pretty effective.
