I gave into to the tremendous rush of adrenalin and monumental sense of injustice that I felt in seeing that b--ch driving MY car when my kids and i don't even have a car to get around in any more.
Are you sure there really is an injustice here? Is the car paid for? If not, could you even afford the payments and insurance, or is that why H has it? And OW didn't take the car, H did. You're entitled to 50% of the marital property, so the car will be half yours in a divorce assuming that it is paid for. And if it isn't, then neither you nor H own the car, the bank does. I don't think this was about the car so much as you just being angry about the whole sitch in general and looking for an excuse to unleash the anger on someone, and who better than OW? Except what you were doing was illegal. Trying to remove her from the car is assault. And you did it in front of the kids. That was just a terribly bad move all the way around.
My question to you is what is your overall goal? Is it to save the M? Did that action move you closer to or farther from your goal? Those are questions you need to ask yourself before saying or doing anything.
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I know I've detached about H
If that were true then you may have been annoyed to see OW in the car, but you never would have escalated things like that.
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My only consolation is thinking about Denver going ballistic on OM when he caught him out in the toilet.
That's no consolation as he readily admits how wrong he was to do that. These are EXACTLY the kinds of situations that often end in someone getting hurt or killed in "the heat of the moment".
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Is it just me? Are you all so in control of yourselves that you can ignore the OW /OM in situations like this?
Absolutely. OM came with W to my house for Christmas. I don't harbor any ill will towards him, he's a nice guy. Another time he drove my kids back to my town (without W) and I met them at the pizza place and we all ate together and I paid for it. My sitch is not his fault. He's a symptom of our marital problems, not the cause. That's detachment.
