Is this cake eating? 10

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NLW,

I am sorry you are going thru all of this, but yes, I feel that you are stuck and honestly are not even listening to the advice you are given.

I KNOW what it is to have an OW in your life. I also know what it is to have her also be part of my kids' life now, and share in my H's life and drive his car, and wear his clothes and use furniture and china, etc., etc., etc. I understand how you feel completely discarded and replaced, but you have CHOICES.

Re. the finances, if you read back in your own threads, a lot of people have given you the same advice. Protect yourself with your lawyer. Ignore your H's threats. Yet you have not done anything about your financial situation and that is why things keep getting worse for you.

I remember you posting about your H doing some very dubious things re. money and how he had been acting irresponsibly. Yet, here you are still hoping he will attend a mediation session.

Don't you think that with all the things he has done to you and your credit and your money that your situation is past mediation? Your L needs to take some strong actions or he will leave you with nothing (if he has not done it yet).

The car situation is another example. You blame H or OW for driving your family luxury car, yet you have allowed for your H to take it without any repercussions, leave you to borrow a car from your mom and in turn, leaving your elderly mom to take the bus!

NLW, you keep expecting your H to make things right and honestly, he has no interest in doing so either for you or your kids at this time. YOU need to fix things for you and your kids, so please, please - work with your lawyer to force your H to fulfill his financial responsibilities and pay his debts.

As for the anger, yes - you need to lose it. Look, I also get very angry, but I don't go off on H or OW. BUG is right. Do you want to end in jail for all of this?

PLEASE - it's time to think about your kids, not your pain, nor the injustice of your situation. Get counseling, go to CODA or ALANON meetings, read, post, meditate, do yoga - anything and everything you can to help you channel your feelings in a positive way.

YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN HOW YOU ARE BEHAVING AND YOUR KIDS DO AS WELL...

We care for you!
(((((((NLW)))))))))