thank you tori and vero! it's not so active over here but the desparation that i felt when i first got into newcomers is gone, too.

our M is still a work in progress. we continue to do things together and have nice conversations. we keep each other company on a lot of outings.

sometimes, however, when i feel my H try to control me or show impatience, i start to wonder. does anyone else on here, after the WAS wants to R, get back together and wonder if they should have stayed apart and gone ahead and kept their life totally their own?

the little things that people go through in a M make me scared that i could be making a mistake. i went so long (12 months) by myself and got very used to not having to live with another person's faults nor have to have them live with mine.

i find that i settled so long for ingratitude and impatience and controlling behaviors that just the slightest bit of that really makes me scared; scared to experience it again.

any suggestions or experience getting back together along those lines?

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing