Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated 2

[sam4nh]

Hi- Again thank you for your input from everyone. I did respond back to the text from my W and said, "Hi-Thanks, for inviting me to niece’s graduation. I'll have to say maybe for now, as I don't know what my schedule will be. We can talk about it as the date gets closer. I love and care for your family too." I tried to keep it simple and on point. I did not receive any response back from W. She’s in CA working for the week.
So 25 you were asking me about 180’s and GAL and I had to take a true look
180s
1. I will not initiate contact unless W initiates it first. I’ve been doing this and since she’s moved out. Her IC has said she should also have minimum contact with me, so not to confuse me and give me any hope
2. Be upbeat, sincere and fun to be around
3. Don’t ask anything about who she’s hanging out with or what she’s doing. Been doing this since she moved out.
4. Don’t respond to phone/text messages immediately
5. Stop watching so much TV and working on the computer when I get home
6. Get out of the house more often and take walks/job with my dog. Especially on the weekends
7. Start working out to prepare for my trip this summer
8. Stop playing the blame game and stop holding things over her head (EA with OW, communicating with her friends about our relationship, etc.)
9. Stop trying to slow down the divorce
10. Speak calmly and concisely of what I want and do not want???Not sure this is a 180, but I want to be calm and level headed with we discuss things
11. Ditch the anger and all of the baggage that comes with it
12. Stop defending myself during discussions
13. Stop debating her language meaning and accept what she says as what she wants
14. Be happy and not always right
GAL
1. Taking a sailing trip from Massachusetts to Bermuda in the summer for my 50th birthday. It is a working sailing trip over about 670 nautical miles.
2. Starting to learn how to glass blow. Taking a class with a friend.
3. Start working out/going to Pilates near my office and spend time at night on the elliptical.
4. Taking up meditation
5. Reading bible verses and becoming more spiritual – Talking to God and my mom daily
6. Get a message/manicure/pedicure – This could be a 180 since I don’t do these normally