Thank you Starsky. I've been considering making a low and high demands list that I got from the book after the affair. High would be the letter/email to OW.
Honestly, I've had these conversations with him so much that I just want to take a break from it all. What's also helping is that his actions demonstrate him moving closer and closer to us.
All in all GREAT things to think about.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017