It took me over 1 year to change the dynamics of my M. I started attending ACOA when I can and I'm flying out to EE thursday. Me and my W are happier then we ever have been in our 10 years of marriage.
Little I think you might have to change some of your thought process:
Like. "my husband made a decision, I think he has"
No you don't. You have no clue what the future will bring. Focus on yourself. Stop mind reading and analyzing. I know it is tough with 3 kids. Simple things. Did you get a cat? Change your hair do. Goto the gym and get a body to die for. Straighten your hair. Cut your hair. Dye your hair. Where fun clothes.
You know you are mind reading. You even state that you are. So may I suggest you STOP.
If you continue to try to figure out craziness, you become crazy.
Definition of insanity is doing the same things day in and day out and expecting different results.
What are you doing different to change the dynamics. What are you doing for self growth to become a woman only a fool would want to leave.
You will make it. Tell yourself that. Continue to get STRONG. You realize the more he thinks he has you hooked the more he wont want to come back.
If it is hard for you to be around your Hubby at times then dont' be. Disappear. If you have to be always be happy. Happier then normal. Stop the pursuit
Read "5 love languages"
What are you doing to GAL? I mean truly GAL? What is your passion? Do you like to cook? Take a class. Is there something you always wanted to do in life? Sky dive? Take 1 day a time.
