I have always been very happy with him but not always very happy with the living situation in Tokyo. Its very crowded and expensive here. My husband was always able to function well, go out, visit friends, ect.
It sounds like he loves it there and you hate it, is that correct? If you were able to reconcile with him, how do you see this playing out long term? What would "happily married" look like to you?
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said im grumpy all the time, nothing more
If you don't like it there I'm guessing there's something to this. How would you describe your attitude?
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we have lived in Limbo since then, we are not physical with each other at all. If I try to even pat him on the back he tells me to go away. He also goes out sometimes and wont tell me where he is going. If I ask he tells me to mind my own business.
That sounds like a really miserable way to live.
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I dont know if a 180 would work on a depressed spouse either.
If you're "grumpy" then a 180 would be to be to act happy instead. You can't possibly lose with a 180 like that. 180's are about taking stock of what you're doing wrong and do the opposite. Even if it doesn't save your M it will make you a better person.
