One thing he did I do not quite understand is that, he changed his own bank account into a joint one with his parents. We do not have a joint bank account together. We really do not have anything together. His car was given by his parents, my car was bought by my parents. Now I have a good job while he still doesn't have a job, and he is spending all the money on that girl like crazy.
If he doesn't have a job then he probably did this so he can mooch off his parents.
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I sometimes want to start the D process myself, does anyone else have similar experience? We do not really have an issue as to split properties, at least that's what I think, although I do feel like he cheated and that he should pay me back in some way. Should I even talk to a lawyer? Should I start the D myself? I just feel trapped now.
Just think about it long and hard and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. A lot of LBS's decide to initiate D because they feel like it gives them control of the sitch, but going through with it doesn't bring the closure or peace-of-mind they expected. You really need to be completely and totally detached to initiate D yourself. Ask yourself if you're there yet. Have you gotten to the point where you are living your own life and nothing your H says or does has any impact on your own PMA? Don't pursue D because you're hoping to wake him up, only do it if you're 100% detached and ready to move on.
