Inside Out, The mlcer has to destroy everything in order to find they way back. It's like peeling an onion w/the mlcer. They have to get to the very bottom layer in order to face their demons, accept that they were not a fault for what transpired as children and grow up. They were emotionally stunted a long time ago and that's where they must return in order to begin healing and growing up. There is no guarantee that when they recover from mlc that they will be the same person that they were pre-crisis. Some will continue to have some of the habits that they picked up during mlc, others will be more settled/mature and others will turn out to be people we do not care for and then, there are those who remain stuck in mlc forever and a day.
Whatever changes you have made, should have been made for you, i.e., to improve on the wonderful person that you are. Your core will remain the same, but the changes will help to define you and your core and yes, make your life a bit better. The changes that you have made must become permanent and not a way to entice your spouse back home.
Take care of yourself, get plenty of rest and drink plenty of liquids. Learn to take time out of your busy day to pamper yourself. Always remember...you are the prize!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
