Yes, she has been through a lot. By postpartum, I assume you mean postpartum depression.
She wasnt very fun to be around so i spent most of my free time in the shed drinking beer and doing things around the house. You checked out, then she checked out. Were you always fun to be around and if not would you have expected your W to go sit in a shed and drink? I know you've turned things around now but you have to be brutally honest with yourself. You did the same thing she's doing, she's just taking it a step further.
So what is there for you to do? Reread Cadet's post above, every day. Seriously, that's it in a nutshell. Let her go and do what she needs to do. Don't judge her, don't blame, don't shame. Become the man you want to be.
