My husband can take the smallest little issue and blow it up. And sometimes as much as I try to keep out of it, I get drug in. Yesterday he took a simple question I asked and blew it up - including again how I should learn to keep my mouth shut, how I haven't owned up to my issues and even so far as my family not helping him or including him in things. What?! First off, I did call him out for not being nice - as in you can't write something mean and then follow up with a 'hahaha' - you meant to be mean and then thought better of it. He even admitted it was rude in the very next line - his word, not mine, but then when I said 'rude' - well, I should learn when to shut my mouth. Huh? And he even back pedaled it again a little later saying all the stuff that the 'haha' meant (rude things about how my family does things on their time etc) when he had already admitted it was wrong to say earlier. Then went on this big rant about how my family breaks his heart, how he tried to be intereested in something they like but they didn't invite him and how he kept asking for help on this one thing at the hosue and didn't get it - now, nevermind the million things they have done for him, helped him, supported him. It was so ridiculous. I calmly replied to that one just saying that my family has always been supportive and helpful.
It's just liek e is always looking to turn something into something else so he can again blame me and my issues for everything - creating other excuses as to why he is leaving.
Then we had to launch into needing a new phone, which he mentioned last week but now his screen is broke. He again acts like I go around spending money on everything and don't let him have any. I have offered a million times to go over the budget with him and he never wants to. He thinks I hord money or something - gee, I wish!
And then to top it all off he had to bring up a conversation from Saturday in which he asked that I let him know when someone else is picking up our daughter or babysitting - because my dad had picked her up a couple hours early on Friday - he should know where she is and who is watchign her at all times in case of emergency. I will admit - I smirked at this - not because I don't think we both have a right to know where she is. Because not 4 months ago, while I was out of town for one night with my friends, he decided to go out and leave our daughter with his sister at our house, and didn't tell me anything at all about it until the next night when I asked what they had done the night before. He didn't tell me because he knew that I would not have approved because of who was goign to be there. I told him either way I should know who is watching my daughter - and you know what, at that time it wasn't a big deal, he shouldn't have to let me know. Well, isn't that just a little turn around. I feel he's using it now because he wants to keep better tabs and know if I am getting a sitter to do anything. Again, it's not that I don't think he should know where our daughter is, it's just all ironic after the incident a few months ago. I couldn't help but smirk a little. But didn't want to get into that arguement so let it go - but then yesterday I get accused of laughing at him over a serious matter - I did say ok to it.
It's just more of the nothing is ever right. Yesterday amongst all of this he threw it up again that he would get all his crap out and we could discuss visiting times with D. All because I asked a simple question about hauling off some items. Now mind you, just this past Saturday he wanted to come over in the afternoon and was sending me all sorts of dirty texts. But he tells me yesterday that he is tired of this 'push and pull'. Sometimes I feel the need to bang my head on the wall for awhile...
