Is this cake eating? 10

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NLW, please, please you must work on all this anger. She could have you arrested and then where would your children be. This is not OK. Acting out of adrenalin and rage can lead you to very bad places.

How do you think your children took all this?

You haven't detached from H and this is all dragging you down.

But I am completely vulnerable to running across OW and exploding with adrenalin and rage. If this is OK for you, why then is it not OK for H to do the things he does?

There is no OW in my sitch so I can't comment on that specifically. But I know when H BDd, my goal, as I stated it to my IC and some friends was, "I will not become and angry, resentful bitter woman who for years tells stories of how terrible her H was." Truly, that was my goal and I've kept it in sight.

I didn't want this experience to define me, but I wanted to use it to help make me stronger.

I'm worried about you. Take care of yourself.