-AnotherStander- how does one DB when the other party is involved with someone else? or in your example of a year w/o really communicating, then what brings them back to that start point?
I should have clarified that my buddy doesn't know anything about DB'ing, he's just an old friend I reached out to when I started going through this and it turned out he had been through it (walkaway spouse) too and I didn't even know it. His W left him, moved in with someone else and they barely spoke for a year. They had a business together and only talked in regards to unwinding that. After a year they started chatting, then going out, then having sex. They never did get divorced, and for now they seem content to have a fairly casual relationship. But even though he doesn't know what DB'ing is, he did the DB'ing equivalent of "going dark". He basically left his W alone and didn't attempt to contact her or reach out to her at all. She got tired of her new fling and eventually started remembering that life with my buddy wasn't all bad times. This is referred to around here as the "fog lifting". WAS's tend to rewrite history and remember only the bad things in the M. Sometimes after a length of time passes the "fog" in their mind will lift and they remember the good things in the M and start to miss them. There is nothing the LBS can do to speed the process, it's purely a discovery the WAS has to go through on their own.
