Gonna be different now, (butterfly in hurricane).

[MrBond]

"Now at this stage of my sitch though, let's pretend I succeeded transforming myself into the better man everybody is talking about,"

No. Doesn't work that way. Either you become a better man or not. You simply have a choice. Stay the egotistical man you are now or change. Simple as that.

"how is this going to help winning W back ?"

Read back through EVERY post people have written to you.

"Because, in all humility, what you don't seem to understand is that I've been picking up, and bringing S back, twice a week, (that is showing up 4 times a week), since the new year, (basically ringing at her door 30+ times) and she is nowhere to be seen!"

Oh we all understand that. What you don't seem to understand is that your attitude from the past has so put her off that she's avoiding you. Actually change, give it a month and then we can tell you how things proceed. What have you been doing with your son. Have you actually changed his diaper yet? I notice you've never answered that question. What have you been doing with him?

"Has anyone dealt with a WAS not in sight !"

Yes I've seen it countless times.

"How do you think I should handle this "coldness"?"

By leaving her alone for now. That's what she wants. There must be a number of things you have to discuss with her concerning your son. You already should be looking at pre-schools for him. Take that as an opportunity to talk to her.

"Be cold in return or be warm for both of us (act as if)?"

It's not being cold, it's called respecting her wishes.

"What is the best attitude in my emails? Keep being short and direct and only talk about S ?"

Yes.

"(I find it so disagreeable"

Doing what you felt like doing before is what got you in trouble in the first place.

"... but you instructed me to)."

Seriously? You're blaming the board? Be a man and start taking responsibility for your own actions and stand behind them. Your blaming attitude is what drove your W away and is a disrespect to everyone who has been trying to help you.

"Be more affable but run the risk of being considered as pursuing and trying to be right?"

Why are you even asking that? You just have to treat your W with dignity and respect. No one said anything about chasing after her.