Does your IC know your H? If not, I am not certain that is a fair assessment. MWD gives warning to the well-meaning but biased therapists, family and friends. Your IC should be about you, not your H.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.