VG, first of all, thank you for posting on my thread. You gave me very good advice (which for some reason I didn't see until now--maybe bc you were on moderation.)
I agree you're doing great. My suggestions? 1) Be prepared to be patient--really patient. This could take a while. 2) Follow the DB rules: GAL, and work on yourself. 3) Make yourself less available (don't fall into the trap of seeing her every day, bc she might say that she didn't really have a separation bc she saw you all the time and didn't have a chance to miss you--that's what my H said.)
Good luck as you start this journey. You'll see what great support you will get on this board.