I understand now more than ever why I have to work hard on 180 until my H moves out. I realized just tiny backslides from 180 would put me in a bad position.
One of my 180 I’ve been doing is to shop for grocery or any household stuff all alone. We used to go to g shopping together all the time. I hate shopping alone to begin with so I kind of made a routine for us to go shopping together all the time. Even when we come back from shopping, I kind of let him load most of the stuff into the house and put them away. I felt I did my part of coming up with menus and cooking every day I didn’t have to do loading part. Ever since DB-ing I go grocery shopping on the way back from work, unload all the stuff into the house, put them away and start cooking without asking for help. Interestingly enough, now I don’t even have to ask for help because when he seems me with all the bags he offers to help and I gladly accept it. It feels so much nicer that way. But just a couple of nights ago I came back with all the bags and I guess I just wanted him to interact with me so I asked him to go back to my car to help me with the rest of the bags. He didn’t look upset or anything but it just had a weird vibe. It was almost like we were right back @square 1.
I do this tiny backsliding often recently. When he was helping me with cooking one night I suggested that he used a different spoon than the one he was using. I know he does not want to be treated like a kid and my old habit just snoops back in if I don’t be careful.
No more backsliding so he’ll only have good impressions of new me when he moves out..
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
