Okay, the game of what's up, etc., now needs to cease. I think you need to sit down and meet w/her to see what is on her mind. The next time she texts to meet, set the date and time and meet w/her. You need to know where you and your marriage stand and go from there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
