"And the reason it struck of chord is because my H rarely if ever apologizes. I also have other family members who have abused me and then demanded that I apologize because I was offended by their harm towards me."
If you're not open to people here, how do you expect them to help you? And on top of that, I was referring to your 2 EAs which you kind of just glossed over. They are a REAL important dynamic to this and I don't think you get the fact that it is a real blow to a person's self-esteem. I get it that you probably felt that way about his porn addiction. HOWEVER, you said he is actually getting help for that. In what way have you come to terms with what you've done?
No one is innocent and being stubborn and not listening to others doesn't help.
We might be able to see things through your H's eyes that you can't because you're too close. But the bottom line is that you're not him so you can't truly say or explain why he does the things he does.
"That totally contradicts my belief system and I'm not going to change it to satisfy MrBond. "
Evidently you didn't read what I wrote.
Honestly, a M is about accepting a person the way they are and with that comes alot of compromise on both parts. You both just keep hurting each other and instead of opening up, you're building walls to shield yourself from getting hurt. Your walls come in the form of sarcastic remarks, flippant replies, etc.
If you really don't think your M is worth it, then file. I honestly don't see anything that can't be healed in your sitch, but you're going to have to open up a little and accept a little leap of faith.
But it's your choice if you're too afraid to open up right now.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
