DCO, this is a terrible, traumatic experience! you might want to talk to a counsellor (and the DB counsellors are very good) to help you get your spirits up. in the meantime, read the book "Divorce Remedy", especially the part about infidelity; and "Not Just Friends" by Dr Shirley Glass. both have valuable information that will help you feel better. also as Cadet points out, "get a life"! do things you enjoy doing, that don't involve your H. hobbies, volunteer work, doing things with your friends and family, etc. and you are among friends here. share your feelings - we have all been through it too, and will do our best to help you feel better.
