Found a list of things to stop on Husband's phone. Number three was "wife". After a conversation in which I asked if he was happy and he said no, he said he was done with the marriage, hadn't been happy in a long time.
I said that then he had to leave. Although, he had been away from M-F already every week, as we have a place in the city, an hour or so away. This has been the situation for over four years.
This transpired over five months ago. Since then I found out he had a girlfriend (not before he left) and so I have been DBing my butt off, since then.
Recently I found out that he no longer has a GF.
While I was accepting of the GF situation, in terms of how I felt (love him) and how I was dealing with it...I now need to find a way to deal with the fact that his relationship is done.
Pay in mind that we are actually still close. Very good friends etc, with more than a hint of physical undertones in our conversations and how we react to one another.
I just feel he needs this time to get his own sh*t together and to begin any sort of physical relationship (even though lack of intimacy was main reason he left) is not the right way to begin to reconnect.
He has told me he is not ready for any emotional relationship tied with physical relationship, but would have an FWB situation.
Given we were married for over 15 years, I think that separating the two would be an impossibility, especially for me.
While I know that a physical relationship would bring us closer, my fear is that he feels he has burned the bridges that lead him back. He does not want divorce, says he has no desire to marry ever again, and separation is fine. Due to the fact that he had another woman almost right away, drove many of our friends to my side in terms of sympathy etc. I really do not think he could be back here and happy.
I actually am willing to entertain relationship without having a common household, rather two of them. Is this weird?
I have been reading the posts here since September, and I know you all have some great advice.
