One more thing I wanted feedback on. When it comes to GAL....I am continuing to rebuild in so many areas of my life, with a new direction in a couple business ventures, hobbies, educational goals, and even plans for building a new house this coming Spring/Summer. Working out, doing my yoga, joining a new church..... I am really trying to learn the lessons of detachment, however it seems that with every little plan and adjustment I make, somewhere in some way, I still hold a place for my wife to join me....is this an odd type of thought or natural? Like last weekend I went out with a really great group of people, we all had a great time, and at the end of the evening, a lady friend of mine asked me to come in for a beer when we had gotten back to her place as I was dropping her off. I didnt think anything of it, and went in enjoyed some more conversation, helped her build a fire in the fire place, watched a bit of TV and out of the blue she makes a pass at me. I told her that I was flattered, but wasn't there at all on that level with her or anyone in the near future.....I honestly was really bothered and it was like I was feeling guilty, like I was cheating...and here I have been divorced for 5 months. So, even with getting a life...getting fit and healthy...getting out with friends, seeing all sorts of positives starting to happen in my new life....I still cant seem to escape this daily reminder that I want to be with someone else that has walked away.
M 52 W 40 D 15 (step) S 12 (step) Married 7, together almost 8 Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..." BD final 8/22/12